The Start of A PMDD Action Plan
A couple of nights ago I was watching The First Wives Club; I have loved that movie since I was a kid. It is such a great come back story; women becoming heroines after so much heartbreak and after losing a very dear friend.
Now that I have gotten older, my perspective has changed a little regarding the movie and the women. The women had lost more than just their husbands, they had lost each other over the years, and they lost themselves.
It got me thinking about my life with PMDD and the purpose that God has planned for my life and accepting the realities of my circumstance despite living with a chronic illness.
The Movie in a Snap
In the movie, the women have reunited after the loss of their very dear friend, Cynthia. Though the women had been best friends in college, after many years of living separate lives, they had lost communication. Each had their own set of unwanted realities, living different dreams than the ones shared once as best friends.
The premises behind the movies is that once they realize that their husbands have betrayed them all, the women unite to set out for revenge. In theory, the idea of revenge sounded accessible to them, but when Real Life started happening, they had to start facing the cold hard truth about them selfs.
Here is where the movie started to change for me. Once the women began to see past all the hate for their husband and accepting themselves and each other for who they were, revenge became an opportunity. Accepting their own self-sabotaging action, helped them to become the women they so long to be. They took their revenge, don’t get me wrong, but they made it something more significant, expanding it for a higher purpose.
So What does that have to do with PMDD?
Now I am sure you are wondering, what does that have to do with PMDD?
What if we owned the truth of our PMDD illness? We accept that we have a chronic condition that may or may not have a cure? What if we walked with pride and wore our illness proudly?
Like the women’s that faced the truth about themselves and their circumstances, we would also do the same with PMDD. By taking ownership of who we are during PMDD and taking action against its betrayal to our bodies and mind.
The things is that three years ago I had asked God to help me reach women searching for hope. I was a teen mom once upon a time that had postpartum depression I was in desperate need of faith and love. Fast forward 14 years later, I was diagnosed with PMDD; I felt lost, confused, scared, and alone. That was two years ago!
When I finally got the courage to start my blog in July of 2017 coming up to my one year anniversary, I wanted to help people and do it while pursuing Gods purpose for my life. I figured I would just write and eventually it God would reveal to me who I needed to reach. One day in the midst of one particular hard PMDD day, I decided to pour my heart out about it in one of my posts, I’m The Happiest When I Bleed.
It was the best thing I ever did! Deciding to own my condition and spread the word. Because I knew that a wonderful, beautiful, fantastic woman was out there hurting and feeling alone just like me. She needed a PMDD Sister, and I want to be that sister.
I Took Action
Taking it a step further; I joined several PMDD communities on Facebook.
The Facebook communities have entirely changed my vision of what I want or should I say what God wants for my life. Those women, every one of those beautiful women has become my sisters. Going to those communities and sharing, speaking, lifting each of my PMDD Sisters up gives me healing of my own. It helps to reduce my PMDD symptom because I am not focused on my self any longer or the PMDD.
When I am feeling my worst, I grab those PMDD feelings, and I use them to help them, to encourage all of the women or even just one. It turns my day around, and I take back a piece of me.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fufill the law of Christ. -Galatians 6:2
You Don’t Own Me
That is ultimately what the women of The First Wives Club did they took back their lives by empowering women. Building a place for women to come and be as they are, to seek help without judgment, and to find freedom from the bondage of life that just didn’t turn out as planned.
That is Now what I want to do with my blog and my site. I want to help women with hurts, pain, hang-ups, and psychological disorders, especially PMDD. God had renewed me when I humbled my self and took ownership of who He made me. It is no mistake that I have PMDD, and I am owning it and wearing it with pride.
My journey started with a small purpose, but God has other plans, and I will no longer let PMDD Own Me…
And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased.- Hebrews 13:16
My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.- John 15:12